What I’ve Learned. Part One
Starting to Date in your 50’s and beyond is daunting at best. When I started dating after my divorce, I pretty much made it my full-time job. Now, the wisdom of embarking on this project in my state of “unhealed trauma” was questionable at best. The vigor with which I applied myself to this journey was impressive. So said my cohorts in crime, my other single friends. I went on countless dates. In the course of my travels among the single men population who are 50 plus, I learned a few things. I hope my experience will help you if you’re in a similar situation.
First of all, it is mostly a numbers game. There are a few good quality prospects. The problem is that you have to sift through the bad ones to find the good ones. The truth is, most men who are single 50-plus are alone for a reason.
My first piece of advice is…don’t put up with any shit. Haha, but true. If you ever feel disrespected, leave immediately. It’s astounding the way men think they can treat us, even at our age. Spare no feelings when it’s time to duck out.
Most men talk incessantly about themselves. If you meet a guy who is interested in getting to know you, give him a chance.
Looks aren’t as important at our age, but chemistry is. Those two things aren’t the same.
Let them pay! A gentleman will pay for you.
If he starts talking about sex right off the bat. That’s what he’s looking for. No judgment here. Just understand that. Oh, and remember, just because you can’t get pregnant doesn’t mean you don’t use protection.
Make him pursue you. Don’t chase him. He won’t respect you.
The final piece of advice, for now, is: Do Not Start Dating Until You have done the work to heal yourself. If you don’t, you will be a target for all the messed-up men out there. Take it from me.
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